Implications of "gravitational" waves

* As a recreational scientist, I try to discern physical properties from system behavior and to consider implications of such properties.  Recently I’ve been wondering about properties of space and concluded that it is not empty but filled with a highly resilient low density medium named aether, which is subject to geometric and electromagnetic disturbances which are propagated as waves.
* Physicists have detected gravity oscillations believed to have emanated from a pair of distant objects orbiting their combined center of gravity just before mutual absorption.  The effect is expected, since the gravitational attraction when the objects lie on the line to us exceeds that when the objects are transverse to the line to us.  These gravity oscillations wiggle distant targets including us, this being the signal detected by LIGO.
 *  The act of wiggling is a transfer of energy to the targets, energy that has traversed a great distance from its source.  The initial transfer of energy from source to its neighboring space (aether), must have impeded the source's motion.  That impedance or resistance likely accounts for the fact that the wave-producing objects approach each other and merge.
* A corollary of this logic is that all objects moving through space lose momentum as they do work on that space (actually space-filling aether) – so gravity should eventually collapse all matter associations suspended by momentum, ie planet systems, solar systems, galaxies and galaxy clusters.  Each collapse should result in an explosive release of matter clouds containing higher-weight atoms as is supposed for collapsing stars.
 *  These are the implications of gravitational waves.  But what is the interaction between matter bodies and aether that accelerates the bodies toward each other?  What are the properties and actions of aether that account for gravitational attraction, the acceleration matter bodies toward each other?  That's fun to contemplate.